answered by David Kaufmann, Case Manager at Partners in Recovery (2016-present)
Keep the secret. Wait till the kid is 3 and looks nothing like you or him. Then divorce him and seek child support for a kid that isn’t his. Its your golden ticket to a financially secure life…Which lets face it is probably the only reason you got married in the first place. Take the mans home and half his possessions. Haven’t you done enough damage by cheating on him and getting pregnant? You obviously don’t love him no matter what you may be telling yourself. He will be devastated but he will heal and move on. Much more easily than he would if he was forced to raise a kid that isn’t his and is a product of his wifes affair. I had a friend this happened too. His wife got pregnant with his best friends child. As the baby grew into a toddler it was heartbreakingly obvious the kid was not his as it looked just like his best friend. The fact that you are even thinking about not telling him is sad and selfish. He deserves to know and you don’t deserve him to stick around and help you fix your mistake.