Daniel Craig once said: “If your kid is bullying my kid, and my kid has tried to tell your kid to stop, and your kid doesn’t, my kid has been instructed to punch your kid in the face.” What are your thoughts on this?
answered by Vickie Martin, studied at Ivy Tech Community College of Indiana
My son was in the 6th grade. His first year at that hormonal hell they call Middle School. He started having trouble with a kid that he had previously been friends with…until we caught the little jerk stealing my son’s Hot Wheels cars which were all one of a kind. I went to his parents, they recognized the description of the car and made him apologize and return it. After that it was game on. Their seating in classes were alphabetical so they sat next to each other. The kid would threaten my son, call him filthy names, say things to him where the teacher couldn’t hear.
My son told me about all of this. So I told him to go to his teacher after class and ask to be moved and explain why. He did. She refused. The bullying kept up. Pencils in my sons back…I saw the point marks on his shirts…short kidney punches…name calling. So I told my son to go to the school counselor. He did. Nothing changed. So I myself went up to school and was told that they had spoken to the student who denied it. They hadn’t seen or heard anything so there was nothing they could do.
So fast forward a few weeks later. My sons grades were starting to drop. He didn’t want to go to school. He was frustrated and angry all the time. So…one morning while driving him to school he told me he felt like he was losing his mind, that he couldn’t take much more. I asked him if it was right that if he laid a hand on another kid…even in self defense…he would be suspended for 3 days. He said that was correct, and I told him “Well then make it count. Don’t hit him in the mouth because of his braces. But beat the holy hell out of that little punk and show everyone you aren’t taking this abuse anymore. You have my blessing.”
He did. My son was a tall and big kid for his age…he just didn’t want to fight. School called me to come and get him and were APPALLED that I had told him that. He took his 3 days and after that the kid wouldn’t even look in his direction.
Maybe not the best recourse, but bullies only understand when they get back what they give. And I was proud of him.
Zion Fontenot – Agreed, I’m sick of hearing these people who think think that “Hitting a bully makes you an even bigger bully”. There’s a thing called comeuppance, people who never get what they deserve are the ones who end up in jail because they never learned the hard way that actions have consequences. Pick on those weaker than you, and you might figure out that they aren’t as weak as you thought
Raymond Davis – I had a similar situation with my son when he was in the eighth grade. Another student decided that bullying my son was fun. After being told about it, I told my son to tell the teacher. Nothing was done, and the bullying continued. I told him to tell the teacher again. Again, nothing was done. The third time, I told him to tell the teacher he asked what for. My reply was, “ if nothing is done this time, Then when it happens again you kick him in the belly just as hard as you can. Then punch him in the nose as hard as you can. I soon found myself discussing the situation with the assistant principal. Itold him that my son had informed the teacher three times and nothing was done. After three times, he not only has my permission, he has my encouragement to defend himself as forcibly as possible.
The bullying ended