answered by Elanie Stavrakas
If you truly want your ex back, do not block him. I don’t know why people are so quick to block one another nowadays. There are only two reasons why I presume they are eager to do it: 1) either they are hurt and wish to protect themself or 2) to be retaliatory — hoping the other will notice and then that person will also become equally as hurt.
Either way, why focus on hurting someone you once cared so deeply about? Essentially that is harboring resentment which is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die or swallowing a bomb expecting the other to implode. It simply doesn’t work that way.
I know it’s hard. Maybe they lied, Maybe they cheated. Maybe they deceived you or simply misrepresented and it stung very badly. But you need to let it go. Forgive them. Why? So you can let yourself heal. When you dwell on pain and old hurts, you remain stuck in the past. This prohibits you from being able to move forward in life. When people dissappoint you, treat it like death. Mourn over the loss of the loved one & shared memories. Grieve over failed hopes/expectations & a planned future. That part of the process focuses on them.
The next step is all about you. Healing is about life. Learn from the lesson and then move on. Pray for their soul if you must. The evil things people do are always about them and not you. You can walk away, but they can’t. Remember forgiveness is a choice . . . choose wisely.
With that being said, if you feel this person is someone you want in your life; someone who loves and respects you; someone who values and appreciates you; someone who treats you as you deserve to be treated . . . then you should keep all lines of communication open. Blocking simply doesn’t allow for this. Be open with your mind, be open with your heart and the rest will follow. Doing so tells the Universe what you truly want and nature will take it’s course as was intended.
Be open to receive him through all channels and if you are meant to reconnect, you will. If he does not come back to you, then that means there is something bigger and better planned for you. Have faith and it will be delivered.