A Narcissist will never apologize. Lack of care and lack of respect. Lack of boundaries. Fake apologies can be given where you’re gas-lit and basically receiving a passive aggressive faux apology. And it’ll come with payback later on.
2. Take Responsibility
Stems from invalidation – feeling ashamed and blamed. Responsibility is a weak spot and triggers sensitivity from criticism.
Never will a narcissist self-reflect and right their wrongs. It is a step into being vulnerable and they will never take what seems to be a plunge… it’ll only hurt their ego. Accountability and communication will NEVER be taken nor tried especially when the truth is hard to swallow.
For the same reason the narcissist does not apologize, they also never forgive. Everyone represents a potential threat and life is a battle zone. Any kind of hurt is cause for retaliation and revenge as something suffered when a blow was taken to the ego. Genuine forgiveness is not part of the narcissist’s emotional lexicon, fundamentally because the narcissist cannot forgive themselves.
5. Act Selflessly
Selflessness is the antithesis of narcissism. The narcissist lacks empathy and has an inflated sense of entitlement, acting selflessly is beyond their comprehension. At the core, the narcissist has nothing to give because they feel their survival is at stake and nothing else matters. Narcissists by definition are locked in an inward spiral of unmet early childhood needs and grandiose compensatory self-beliefs.
6. Express Real Feelings
Thrives above all on attention, and there is no more fascinating topic than themselves. Just because they mightn’t always boast it doesn’t mean they are not covert about it… watch the covert and subtle hints… love to run things and control anything… even what might just seem simple or “comfortable” is really their way of running the show. Thrives on attention and finds passive-aggressive ways to get it, such as complaining or playing the victim. The narcissist hides, from others and from themselves and then plays victim, like a never ending child. Lack the self-awareness to understand the underlying feelings that drive their behavior as well as the courage to make themselves vulnerable enough to share those feelings. The narcissist operates competitively on raw survivalist instinct and is a stranger to their innermost emotional realm.
7. Emotional Nuance
Though they may be clever, particularly at manipulating people and spotting their vulnerabilities, the narcissist lacks an awareness of emotional nuance and is prone to extremist black-and-white thinking. They tend to either idealize or devalue others, and project their own corrupt emotional agenda, believing that others see life as they do – as a series of games or battles to be won. The wide continuum of emotion that healthy beings, especially the most empathetic, experience on a daily basis is lost on the narcissist, who is trapped in their lonely self-protective construction of reality. They will not share details and then will blame you when things go awry. The narcissist operates competitively on raw survivalist instinct and is a stranger to their innermost emotional realm.
I hope this helps. ❤️
Blessings, strength, and love.